Discovering myself as a fiancee
Discovering myself as a fiancée has been one of my favorite things so far!
So, as the countdown reaches double digits, here are some thoughts that help me feel grounded and grateful when I think I’m going crazy or losing control.
Cherish being a fiancée. History, the Bible, the universe, etc. Have taught us time and time again, that waiting and preparation periods are extremely important. Being a fiancée is not just planning a wedding, is visualizing and working on a future marriage with the one I love… and I’m loving it.
It’s okay to get stressed! Just breathe in and out. You’re facing new challenges. Your perfectionist/control freak is panicking. Give her small tasks to tackle, but don’t tackle yourself in the process.
The wedding day is NOT the best day of your life! Yup. I said it and I meant it. My wedding day is meant to be memorable, and the beginning of a beautiful love story, but it doesn’t deserve the responsibility of being the best day of my life lived and life to come.
May life give me the opportunity (and financial freedom) to throw a wedding party where I can host every single human being that has influenced my life, Bernardo’s life, and our relationship. In the meantime, I cherish, value, and appreciate the means that let us invite a single table of people to celebrate the day with us.
Many people have given us plenty of advice and will continue to do so. Learn to hold on to the ones that touch your heart, your wallet, and your vision board; and let the other ones be transferred to ears and hearts that do relate to those experiences.
Don’t lose sight of the day after the wedding. The first day you get to wake up and say “Good morning husband!” May that day, and every day after, be the reason to be a fiancée today.